Monthly Archives: October 2010

School Board Member Resigns!!! We did it!!!

Part of his “apology?”

“I’m sorry I’ve hurt people with my comments,” Clint McCance, vice-president of the Midland School District in Pleasant Plains, Arkansas said. “I’m sorry I made those ignorant comments and hurt people on a broad spectrum.”


Arkansas school board member to resign over anti-gay post


Arkansas School Board Member Says Gay Students Should Die…

An Arkansas School Board Member blasted “Spirit Day,” which was a day to honor the LGBT teens who committed suicide recently.

He said, “Seriously they want me to wear purple because five queers committed suicide. The only way I’m wearin’ it for them is if they all commit suicide.”

This man is on the School Board.  What does that say about the leaders who are teaching our children?

There ARE actions we can take.  Please follow this link to read the full article and to see what you can do.

Arkansas School Board Member Says Gay Students Should “Get AIDS and Die”


Demand Resignation of Anti-Gay Arkansas School Board Member


Fire Clint McCance


Clint McCane Facebook Comments


“Live and work to make a difference, to make things better, even the smallest things. Give full consideration to the rights and interests of others. No business is successful, even if it flourishes, in a society that does not care for or about its people.”

First Weekly OPEN POST!!!

Here it is! I  have had several requests for a post in which members can contribute to the blog. Here is your open post! Post your stories, friends’ stories, stories that touched you, or any thoughts, feelings, etc you might have relating to the content of this blog. If any one post warrants it, it may become its own thread! So come on in and share!


Adam Lambert’s video from the It Gets Better Project:

Don’t let another cry go unanswered!

I have a lesbian friend who was not bullied by her peers.  The reason?  She could not come to terms with her own feelings and never said what those feelings were out loud.  The struggle she endured was no easy ride.  Her family was adamantly against homosexuality, which left her feeling so much shame, she withdrew, started doing heavy drugs, became so suicidal and self-destructive several hospitalizations were the only means to keep her safe from herself.

This torture lasted for more than three years.

I was with her through it all.  In fact, at the time, I think I was the only one who showed her the unconditional acceptance and love she so desired.  Even so, she became extremely promiscuous with men… trying to convince herself that she was “straight,” or at the very least “bisexual.”  Then, she was raped.  Why did this have to happen???

When she finally acknowledged that her “gay feelings” were not going to go away,  she sought out a Christian church that proclaimed ridiculous success rates in turning “gay” people “straight.”  Needless to say, the intervention didn’t work.

Her inner battles took their toll, but she finally accepted her feelings and sought out relationships with women.  In so doing, she came out to her mom… to her family and that is when the bullying started.

What we have to remember is that GLBTQ kids/teens are not just bullied by their peers, they are bullied by their families, by their churches, by a society that proclaims that homosexuality is immoral, disgusting, repulsive, sinful.

Without a strong support system, many of these people go to the extreme.  They are in such despair that the only option they see is to take their own lives.

My friend was lucky.

How long can we sit back and watch, just shaking our heads?  It is easy to feel helpless in the face of these tragedies, but I challenge you to really think about this:  What can you do to help these kids, these teens?  Even if it’s donating a dollar to the cause, that’s a step in the right direction.

Complacency has no place here.

Don’t ignore it….

Hi!  My name is Margaret and I am a married, 48 year old mother of two teenage children, who have always been open minded, outgoing and passionate about life.

In view of the most recent anti-gay incidents, I have been rocked to the core… Never in my life did I expect this issue to seemingly get worse in this day and age, and right before my eyes…when I woke up this morning to come here, I find THIS…

The only thing positive in this article is, the bastards that have committed these crime are behind bars…for now that is…

The above article is EXACTLY what this blog is all about…the sad truth… Anti-gay HATE is an epidemic.  Mostly because of archaic views and ignorance.  It sickens me to know there are people in this world who carry around this hate in their back pockets to just whip out at any moment…  To commit crimes such as the above, turn it into a game of power, deceit, and then boast about it as if it was a trophy of accomplishment, is to me, one of the most horrendous acts of human failure there is.

Where do these morons learn this crap????  Not from people like me, that’s for sure.  There is a ‘backwoods’ mentality that exists in our society that needs to be changed.  This hate has been passed down through the generations and unfortunately taught to the youth of this generation from an early age.  It seems ingrained in them.

BUT, I know for a fact, that you can change the outlook of people through education, compassion and love.

Changing society’s perception of the gay community is one of the toughest challenges we face today.  The first thing we need to realize is this is not just a ‘gay cause’.  Hate crimes, bullying, and smear campaigns affect ALL of us, gay, straight, sideways for God’s sake…who cares?  When we stop looking at issues such as this as just a ‘gay thing’,  maybe we can get somewhere.  Yes this particular blog site does address anti-gay bias, but it’s only part of the big picture.

Hate, bullying, and the like are issues  that need to be addressed by humanity period…pure and simple…no gray area about it.  NONE…its black and white…  Hate is wrong. Bullying is wrong.  Teaching it is wrong.  IGNORING it is WRONG!

If you turn a blind eye to it, you are teaching it…perpetuating it…living it.  Yeah…..  I just said that.  Ignorance is the biggest catalyst there is in keeping  hate alive.  People are afraid…they are afraid to show their feelings, share their thoughts, and afraid to be branded as ‘one of those’…..

Where are your balls people??? I’m not ‘gay’ but I stand up for what is right.  I want the people who choose to ignore things like this to step into the shoes of the people who are hated against just because they are ‘different’.  Just once…  Just one time…so they can feel the the pain, the despair.  Yeah…  I’m like that.

I want these people who see themselves ‘above’ others to experience what the ‘different people’ feel on a day to day basis.  Then maybe they would see the damage that is done.  Be it with words, actions, whatever….  feel it people….  it HURTS. And if you teach your children to ignore it, and yes…they see you ignore these things and follow your examples, well…I’m just sayin’.

It starts at home people…  Teach your children, your parents, your friends  not to hate.  Show them that being different is a GOOD thing.  Teach your children not to run scared from the people who don’t understand.  Teach them to stand up for all the good in being different, unique and individualistic.  Teach them to look inside themselves, to look inside others, and not judge someones heart and soul on differences, but embrace them, learn from them, accept them.  It’s not hard…it’s actually pretty damn easy to love…it comes naturally…but hate?  It’s taught…

Ya know… when my kids were growing up, the word ‘hate’ was forbidden in my home.  Absolutely forbidden.  Using it was grounds for punishment.  No matter how it was used.  And I tell ya what… neither child used it more than once… Yeah… and guess what?

My children DON’T hate!  Hate does not exist in their minds…  just ask them…  What is hate?  They will tell you, ‘I don’t know.’

And to prove my point, to myself, I just asked my 16yr old daughter to please read the above question and give me an answer… and she said, “That’s hard…”  Got a bewildered look on her face and then said, “because I don’t hate anything or anyone.  I really can’t answer that.”

Have I made my point?  I hope so.

I live the words I write.  I live my beliefs, I live my life without hate, and I teach the people around me not to hate.  It’s not always easy, but I do it because it’s the right thing to do.

So…..  What’s on the agenda for today?  Let’s see… I will make it a point to find something positive in this whole mess… I will seek the good in people…  I will spread the word that being ‘different’ is okay.

How about you?

Oh…and this ‘different’ thing… and this ‘gay’ thing….  What is that all about anyway?  I better save that for another ramble…

A Few Facts About Bullying, and Why This is Important

I started this blog because recently there have been an overwhelming number of youth suicides that were a direct result of bullying in schools. Perhaps the most widely reported was that of Tyler Clementi, who jumped off the George Washington Bridge after his roommate videotaped him having sex with another man and put it on the internet, complete with unbelievably cruel commentary, for the world to see. That is just ONE example. This has to stop. Here are a few statistics from various reporting agencies on the climate in schools and the effects of bullying, often largely due to sexual identity and related issues:

  • Nearly one-fourth of students from elementary through high school have reported that they have been harassed or bullied on school property because of their race, ethnicity, gender, religion, sexual orientation, or disability.-2001-2002 California Student Survey
  • Six out of 10 American teens witness bullying at least once a day. -National Crime Prevention Council, 2003
  • Students hear anti-gay epithets 25 times a day, and teachers fail to respond to these comments 97% of the time. -Gay Lesbian Straight Educator’s Network.
  • One out of every 10 students who drops out of school does so because of repeated bullying. -Oklahoma Health Department, 2001
  • Harassment and bullying have been linked to 75% of school-shooting incidents. -US Secret Service Report, May 2002
  • Gay and lesbian youth are two to three times more likely to commit suicide than other youths, and 30% of all completed youth suicides are related to the issue of sexual identity. -Report to the Secretary’s Task Force on Youth Suicide
  • Students who describe themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered are five times more likely to miss school because of feeling unsafe while 28% are forced to drop out. -National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, 1984
  • 85% of teachers oppose integrating lesbian, gay and bisexual themes in their curricula.  -Making Schools Safe for Gay and Lesbian Youth: Report of the Massachusetts Governor’s Commission on Gay and Lesbian Youth, 1993
  • More than 91% of LGBT students say they hear homophobic slurs or expressions frequently or often.-GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey
  • Nearly 58% of LGBT students have had property stolen or deliberately damaged at school. -GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey
  • More than 64% of LGBT students say they feel unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation. -GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey

This has to stop. If you want to help, get these facts out there. Let people around you, people on the web, people everywhere know that precious lives are being lost due to ignorant sport. Do not let another bright, promising future come to a close because someone decided to ridicule what they did not understand.

Hello world!

Well Hello World! This is just an introductory post. My name is Shannon, and I am a 29 year old lesbian that cares about the welfare of LGBTQ youth, as well as all youth in our schools. So many kids grow up living in fear due to bullying-both at home and at school- due to sexual identity and related issues. Many feel alone. Some have even been driven to make attempts on their own lives. Tragically, they often succeed.

I was one such child. I come from a family in which homosexuality is less than acceptable, and I grew up in the Bible Belt where it is often perfectly acceptable to chastise people for sexual orientation or perceived sexual orientation. This happened to me on countless occasions. If I can stop it from happening to even one child, if I can save even one life, if I can change even one law to stop these travesties, I am doing my job. I cannot do it alone though, and I have had some wonderful volunteers that are joining me here to help. We CAN change the world. Thank you for reading, and if you are so moved, feel free to invite your friends, get the word out for a safer, healthier school environment for all children.