Monthly Archives: March 2011

My son…

He’s not gay… and you know that is the most fabulous part of this story!

He wrote an essay for school titled, “Pointless Mistreatment.” His opener?

“Tyler Clementi, a student from Rutgers University, committed suicide after his roommates put up a live broadcast on the internet of him having a sexual encounter with another man (“Gay Teen Suicides…”). Unfortunately, this is one instance of far too many.”

That is my son.

Raise your kids right!


Brutal Gay Bashing Victim In NYC

Barie Shortell was walking home late at night when he was attacked. He was not robbed, but the attackers hurled anti gay slurs at him as they beat him within an inch of his life. They broke his nose, jaw, shattered his eye sockets. Before and after photos at the end of this entry.

Now, unfortunately, Barie, like many Americans, has no health insurance, and, as a result of this horrific crime, has been left with a ridiculous hospital bill, on top of being unable to work (obviously). Queerty has asked us to spread the word about the fundraiser set up in his name. If you can help, do. If not, simply spread the word in any way you can. Luckily, the state of NY does consider anti gay crimes as hate crimes, so the thugs who did this will be slapped with hate crime charges. However, many states do not. So, if, in your state, anti LGBT crimes are not considered hate crimes, push to get the Feds involved if something like this happens near you, because, generally, unless they kill someone, these people get off with assault charges, usually with little to no jail time. So, some food for thought.

Please spread the word. This is senseless and cruel and the last thing this poor man should be worrying about is money at a time like this. Thank you. If you can, please give to the fundraiser here.

Here is what Barie looks like, before and after the beating:


Another Tragedy.

Yes, sadly, it has happened again. Another young life lost to suicide due to school bullying. This time, 13-year- old Nick Kelo shot himself with the gun kept in a safe in his family’s home after being taunted at school for being perceived as gay. The reason for the perception given, you ask? He quit the football team in order to play saxophone in the band. Now, no one knows if Nick was gay or not. According to his mother, he was not. However, this brings another side of this issue to the table: stereotypes about LGBT people. Not every gay man is a fabulous, effeminate fashion designer who is into quirky modern art and music, and not every lesbian loves flannel, wears a buzz cut, and works on cars. Sure, some are those things, and that is just fine, but many are not. Stereotyping entire groups of people for no good reason, and perpetuating those ideas to be used as ammunition is just yet another problem in a very deep, disturbing,  intricate web of trouble that has created this incredibly sad problem in our school. Read Nick’s story at Queerty here.


I am soooooo excited!  YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!  This is EPIC!  And yes, it relates to our cause.

In the past, the resistance and hate toward the gay community filtered unwittingly into area’s most people aren’t even aware of and this is PROOF barriers are coming down, slowly but surely!  What am I talking about?

I’m talking about a HUGE, influential university, along with others, OUTWARDLY recognizing the gay community.  By doing so, they KNOW they risk a certain clientele, but CHOSE to move forward anyway.

Even though the rooted action to ban the ROTC originally was FOR the gay community, things like banning the ROTC from campus’  actually hurt the community, ostracizing them AGAIN.   But this time it was the silent gay man or woman.   Thinking they were doing the right thing by denying the ROTC from campus because of the enactment of the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ bill, which of course INCLUDED the SILENT gay community who still wanted to serve, the universities actually perpetuated the problem by forcing a wedge even deeper between society and the hearts and souls who served no matter what the consequences.  Many in the gay community served our country under duress, unselfishly.  And that alone makes those men and women hero’s in my book.

One thing society may need to deal with, is the stress and grudges held by the gay community for actions of the majority, but it’s our job to tell them how we feel.  To accept those who risked their lives daily to protect us.   They hid their sexuality, served in fear of being found out, and dealt/deal with hypocritical and derogatory circumstances by fellow soldiers, yet were willing to protect us, to die for us.   TO DIE FOR US, PEOPLE!    We as a society need to appreciate everything the silent gay soldier gave up to do just that.  Unselfishly.

This is an EPIC Day, oh yes it is!


Harvard and several other prominent schools, including Stanford, Yale and Columbia, had kept the Vietnam-era ban in place following the war because of what they viewed as a discriminatory military policy forbidding gays from serving openly.

But after Congress cleared the way for the repeal of the so-called “don’t ask, don’t tell,” policy in December, Harvard’s president said she’d work toward ROTC’s return.

President Barack Obama in late December signed the law to repeal the 17-year-old “don’t ask don’t tell” policy under which soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines were required to keep their homosexuality a secret or face dismissal. Final implementation of the repeal doesn’t go into effect until 60 days after the president, defense secretary and chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff certify that lifting the ban won’t hurt the military’s ability to fight. Part of their decision will be based on the progress of new training. The Army’s top general on Feb. 17 kicked off the service’s training program on the new law allowing gays to serve openly in the military, and officials said they hope to have the whole force trained by mid-August.

Harvard, which threw ROTC off its campus in 1969, is the first prominent school to rescind its ban since December.

Harvard students have still participated in ROTC in recent years, but the school didn’t fund the program and the students had to train at the nearby MIT.

A spokesman for OutServe, an underground network of gay and lesbian active duty military member, said it was “proud to welcome Harvard back to the officer training community.”