Category Archives: Bullying Incidents

Any bullying incident, be it personal or in the news. Can also include result of bullying.

Another Teenager Commits Suicide Over Bullying


Fourteen year-old Jamey Rodemeyer from Buffalo, New York  committed suicide in the early morning hours of September 18, 2011.  Jamey’s parents, Tracy and Tim Rodemeyer, believe he took his own life because he could no longer tolerate the bullying and taunts he had endured for years.

According to Jamey’s “It Gets Better” video, when he came out as being “bi” he received numerous hate messages, some calling him a faggot, others telling him that gay people go to hell.  He offered hope in the video though, by stating, “I have so much support from people I don’t even know online… they’re so nice and caring and they don’t ever want me to die.” 

His parents intervened early on by going to his school where measures were taken to stop the harassment through a bullying prevention program.  Jamey’s parents had also gotten him into counseling where they believed he’d learned how to deal with it better.  Although his parents were aware that the bullying continued when he entered high school 3 weeks ago, they weren’t concerned with the way he was handling it.  They thought he was doing fine.

He wasn’t.

Just days before his death, Jamey blogged, “I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens.  What do I have to do so people will listen?”

Unfortunately for Jamey and for so many other LGBT youth, people listened a little too late.

Watch Jamey’s “It Gets Better” video:

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Dhuran Ravi: Throw the Book at Him?


Dhuran Ravi, the young Rutgers student who tormented his closeted gay roommate Tyler Clementi has been arraigned, the New York Times reports.  Queerty, popular gay snark blog, seem to revel in glee at the possibility that Ravi could possibly spend upwards of ten years in prison for his crimes and his part in Clementi’s death. However, some regulars in the Queerty comment section seemed to think the possible punishment is excessive. I happen to disagree with them. Ravi, and others who engage in bias intimidation, especially of the variety that has such grave consequences, need to be made examples of, to show that such behavior will not be tolerated, and that the price to pay will be very high indeed. I say ruin his life, because his actions have a direct correlation to the tragic death of a bright young man who was harming no one. What do you think?

credits: New York Times, Queerty

Yes, I Get Bullied, Too.


I hesitated to post this here, because I never wanted to make this blog about me. But, it is certainly relevant. Last week, I was bullied at school. Students called me a ‘carpet muncher’ in the student center, and then proceeded to have a loud conversation behind me the next day about how being gay is a sin. To top it all off, anti gay religious people set up camp on campus, handing out pamphlets and testimonials in the student center day before yesterday. All of these things make me feel so unwelcome and unappreciated on my own college campus.

Now, the good news is that it is being taken care of. I have my advisor and a member of the school administration in my corner, and they do not condone homophobia. They are also working toward implementing tolerance and diversity policies, and equipping the staff to deal with anti gay bullying. They were simply ignorant of how big an issue this really is.

This is an especially appropriate post as tomorrow is the Day of Silence, an effort to bring attention to LGBT bullying in schools and workplaces around the nation. Please participate and spread the word.

Another Tragedy.


Yes, sadly, it has happened again. Another young life lost to suicide due to school bullying. This time, 13-year- old Nick Kelo shot himself with the gun kept in a safe in his family’s home after being taunted at school for being perceived as gay. The reason for the perception given, you ask? He quit the football team in order to play saxophone in the band. Now, no one knows if Nick was gay or not. According to his mother, he was not. However, this brings another side of this issue to the table: stereotypes about LGBT people. Not every gay man is a fabulous, effeminate fashion designer who is into quirky modern art and music, and not every lesbian loves flannel, wears a buzz cut, and works on cars. Sure, some are those things, and that is just fine, but many are not. Stereotyping entire groups of people for no good reason, and perpetuating those ideas to be used as ammunition is just yet another problem in a very deep, disturbing,  intricate web of trouble that has created this incredibly sad problem in our school. Read Nick’s story at Queerty here.

Huffington Post Reports Two More Bullying Related Suicides.


Lance Lundsten and Tiffani Maxwell

More tragedy on the bullying front. Eighteen- year- old Lance Lundsten, an openly gay high school student, and sixteen- year- old Tiffani Maxwell, a high school student who was accused of  using drugs and harassed in school, have committed suicide, allegedly as a direct result of harassment.

Credit: Huffington Post

School Board Member Resigns!!! We did it!!!


Part of his “apology?”

“I’m sorry I’ve hurt people with my comments,” Clint McCance, vice-president of the Midland School District in Pleasant Plains, Arkansas said. “I’m sorry I made those ignorant comments and hurt people on a broad spectrum.”

READ FULL ARTICLE AND VIEW VIDEO HERE:

Arkansas school board member to resign over anti-gay post

A Few Facts About Bullying, and Why This is Important


I started this blog because recently there have been an overwhelming number of youth suicides that were a direct result of bullying in schools. Perhaps the most widely reported was that of Tyler Clementi, who jumped off the George Washington Bridge after his roommate videotaped him having sex with another man and put it on the internet, complete with unbelievably cruel commentary, for the world to see. That is just ONE example. This has to stop. Here are a few statistics from various reporting agencies on the climate in schools and the effects of bullying, often largely due to sexual identity and related issues:

  • Nearly one-fourth of students from elementary through high school have reported that they have been harassed or bullied on school property because of their race, ethnicity, gender, religion, sexual orientation, or disability.-2001-2002 California Student Survey
  • Six out of 10 American teens witness bullying at least once a day. -National Crime Prevention Council, 2003
  • Students hear anti-gay epithets 25 times a day, and teachers fail to respond to these comments 97% of the time. -Gay Lesbian Straight Educator’s Network.
  • One out of every 10 students who drops out of school does so because of repeated bullying. -Oklahoma Health Department, 2001
  • Harassment and bullying have been linked to 75% of school-shooting incidents. -US Secret Service Report, May 2002
  • Gay and lesbian youth are two to three times more likely to commit suicide than other youths, and 30% of all completed youth suicides are related to the issue of sexual identity. -Report to the Secretary’s Task Force on Youth Suicide
  • Students who describe themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered are five times more likely to miss school because of feeling unsafe while 28% are forced to drop out. -National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, 1984
  • 85% of teachers oppose integrating lesbian, gay and bisexual themes in their curricula.  -Making Schools Safe for Gay and Lesbian Youth: Report of the Massachusetts Governor’s Commission on Gay and Lesbian Youth, 1993
  • More than 91% of LGBT students say they hear homophobic slurs or expressions frequently or often.-GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey
  • Nearly 58% of LGBT students have had property stolen or deliberately damaged at school. -GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey
  • More than 64% of LGBT students say they feel unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation. -GLSEN 2003 National School Climate Survey

This has to stop. If you want to help, get these facts out there. Let people around you, people on the web, people everywhere know that precious lives are being lost due to ignorant sport. Do not let another bright, promising future come to a close because someone decided to ridicule what they did not understand.