Category Archives: The Blog

Any posts relating to changes/progress of the blog.

Direction of the Blog!


This is more of an informative post than anything. We do great work here, and advertise when possible, but we understand that many people do not have time to devote to another social networking site. Therefore, I am reminding everyone that the sidebar here is a one stop shop for equality. Most of the organizations focus on the eradication of the bullying problem, suicide prevention, and LGBT youth centric issues, as this is the foundation of Stop The Hate Stop The Hurt’s Purpose. However, please remember that the ultimate goal is equality for ALL people, no matter superficial characteristics, as we are all people. If you only have a second, look to the sidebar, and there are links to MANY reputable, active organizations and websites. Signing a petition or getting information is only a click away. Also, later today, there will be additional websites added. Some will be bullying related, others LGBT rights oriented, and still others links to get laws changed to reflect equality in American government. Thank you for your time, effort, and interest in Stop The Hate Stop The Hurt!

 

Feel free to treat this as an open post to ask questions or have discussions! We are all in this together! Thanks again.

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First Weekly OPEN POST!!!


Here it is! I  have had several requests for a post in which members can contribute to the blog. Here is your open post! Post your stories, friends’ stories, stories that touched you, or any thoughts, feelings, etc you might have relating to the content of this blog. If any one post warrants it, it may become its own thread! So come on in and share!

For Those of you that are struggling, remember, it does get better. EVERYONE PLEASE REMEMBER TO WEAR PURPLE ON WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 20,2010 FOR SPIRIT DAY, IN MEMORY OF BULLYING VICTIMS THAT HAVE COMMITED SUICIDE IN RECENT WEEKS. http://www.glaad.org/spiritday

Adam Lambert’s video from the It Gets Better Project:

Don’t let another cry go unanswered!



I have a lesbian friend who was not bullied by her peers.  The reason?  She could not come to terms with her own feelings and never said what those feelings were out loud.  The struggle she endured was no easy ride.  Her family was adamantly against homosexuality, which left her feeling so much shame, she withdrew, started doing heavy drugs, became so suicidal and self-destructive several hospitalizations were the only means to keep her safe from herself.

This torture lasted for more than three years.

I was with her through it all.  In fact, at the time, I think I was the only one who showed her the unconditional acceptance and love she so desired.  Even so, she became extremely promiscuous with men… trying to convince herself that she was “straight,” or at the very least “bisexual.”  Then, she was raped.  Why did this have to happen???

When she finally acknowledged that her “gay feelings” were not going to go away,  she sought out a Christian church that proclaimed ridiculous success rates in turning “gay” people “straight.”  Needless to say, the intervention didn’t work.

Her inner battles took their toll, but she finally accepted her feelings and sought out relationships with women.  In so doing, she came out to her mom… to her family and that is when the bullying started.

What we have to remember is that GLBTQ kids/teens are not just bullied by their peers, they are bullied by their families, by their churches, by a society that proclaims that homosexuality is immoral, disgusting, repulsive, sinful.

Without a strong support system, many of these people go to the extreme.  They are in such despair that the only option they see is to take their own lives.

My friend was lucky.

How long can we sit back and watch, just shaking our heads?  It is easy to feel helpless in the face of these tragedies, but I challenge you to really think about this:  What can you do to help these kids, these teens?  Even if it’s donating a dollar to the cause, that’s a step in the right direction.

Complacency has no place here.