Brutal Gay Bashing Victim In NYC

Barie Shortell was walking home late at night when he was attacked. He was not robbed, but the attackers hurled anti gay slurs at him as they beat him within an inch of his life. They broke his nose, jaw, shattered his eye sockets. Before and after photos at the end of this entry.

Now, unfortunately, Barie, like many Americans, has no health insurance, and, as a result of this horrific crime, has been left with a ridiculous hospital bill, on top of being unable to work (obviously). Queerty has asked us to spread the word about the fundraiser set up in his name. If you can help, do. If not, simply spread the word in any way you can. Luckily, the state of NY does consider anti gay crimes as hate crimes, so the thugs who did this will be slapped with hate crime charges. However, many states do not. So, if, in your state, anti LGBT crimes are not considered hate crimes, push to get the Feds involved if something like this happens near you, because, generally, unless they kill someone, these people get off with assault charges, usually with little to no jail time. So, some food for thought.

Please spread the word. This is senseless and cruel and the last thing this poor man should be worrying about is money at a time like this. Thank you. If you can, please give to the fundraiser here.

Here is what Barie looks like, before and after the beating:



Another Tragedy.

Yes, sadly, it has happened again. Another young life lost to suicide due to school bullying. This time, 13-year- old Nick Kelo shot himself with the gun kept in a safe in his family’s home after being taunted at school for being perceived as gay. The reason for the perception given, you ask? He quit the football team in order to play saxophone in the band. Now, no one knows if Nick was gay or not. According to his mother, he was not. However, this brings another side of this issue to the table: stereotypes about LGBT people. Not every gay man is a fabulous, effeminate fashion designer who is into quirky modern art and music, and not every lesbian loves flannel, wears a buzz cut, and works on cars. Sure, some are those things, and that is just fine, but many are not. Stereotyping entire groups of people for no good reason, and perpetuating those ideas to be used as ammunition is just yet another problem in a very deep, disturbing,  intricate web of trouble that has created this incredibly sad problem in our school. Read Nick’s story at Queerty here.


I am soooooo excited!  YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!  This is EPIC!  And yes, it relates to our cause.

In the past, the resistance and hate toward the gay community filtered unwittingly into area’s most people aren’t even aware of and this is PROOF barriers are coming down, slowly but surely!  What am I talking about?

I’m talking about a HUGE, influential university, along with others, OUTWARDLY recognizing the gay community.  By doing so, they KNOW they risk a certain clientele, but CHOSE to move forward anyway.

Even though the rooted action to ban the ROTC originally was FOR the gay community, things like banning the ROTC from campus’  actually hurt the community, ostracizing them AGAIN.   But this time it was the silent gay man or woman.   Thinking they were doing the right thing by denying the ROTC from campus because of the enactment of the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ bill, which of course INCLUDED the SILENT gay community who still wanted to serve, the universities actually perpetuated the problem by forcing a wedge even deeper between society and the hearts and souls who served no matter what the consequences.  Many in the gay community served our country under duress, unselfishly.  And that alone makes those men and women hero’s in my book.

One thing society may need to deal with, is the stress and grudges held by the gay community for actions of the majority, but it’s our job to tell them how we feel.  To accept those who risked their lives daily to protect us.   They hid their sexuality, served in fear of being found out, and dealt/deal with hypocritical and derogatory circumstances by fellow soldiers, yet were willing to protect us, to die for us.   TO DIE FOR US, PEOPLE!    We as a society need to appreciate everything the silent gay soldier gave up to do just that.  Unselfishly.

This is an EPIC Day, oh yes it is!


Harvard and several other prominent schools, including Stanford, Yale and Columbia, had kept the Vietnam-era ban in place following the war because of what they viewed as a discriminatory military policy forbidding gays from serving openly.

But after Congress cleared the way for the repeal of the so-called “don’t ask, don’t tell,” policy in December, Harvard’s president said she’d work toward ROTC’s return.

President Barack Obama in late December signed the law to repeal the 17-year-old “don’t ask don’t tell” policy under which soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines were required to keep their homosexuality a secret or face dismissal. Final implementation of the repeal doesn’t go into effect until 60 days after the president, defense secretary and chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff certify that lifting the ban won’t hurt the military’s ability to fight. Part of their decision will be based on the progress of new training. The Army’s top general on Feb. 17 kicked off the service’s training program on the new law allowing gays to serve openly in the military, and officials said they hope to have the whole force trained by mid-August.

Harvard, which threw ROTC off its campus in 1969, is the first prominent school to rescind its ban since December.

Harvard students have still participated in ROTC in recent years, but the school didn’t fund the program and the students had to train at the nearby MIT.

A spokesman for OutServe, an underground network of gay and lesbian active duty military member, said it was “proud to welcome Harvard back to the officer training community.”


FINALLY! Obama says DOMA is ‘Unconstitutional’ and DoJ Should Stop Defending It

This is a grand day indeed! Barack Obama has finally said what we have been waiting for:The Defense of Marriage Act, which is a bill that defines marriage as being between one man and one woman, is unconstitutional per the 5th Amendment. Also, The Department of Justice will no longer defend it. So, in other words, people can file lawsuits in their states regarding marriage, and the DoJ won’t stand in their way. This is a huge leap. The Huffington Post reports.

Direction of the Blog!

This is more of an informative post than anything. We do great work here, and advertise when possible, but we understand that many people do not have time to devote to another social networking site. Therefore, I am reminding everyone that the sidebar here is a one stop shop for equality. Most of the organizations focus on the eradication of the bullying problem, suicide prevention, and LGBT youth centric issues, as this is the foundation of Stop The Hate Stop The Hurt’s Purpose. However, please remember that the ultimate goal is equality for ALL people, no matter superficial characteristics, as we are all people. If you only have a second, look to the sidebar, and there are links to MANY reputable, active organizations and websites. Signing a petition or getting information is only a click away. Also, later today, there will be additional websites added. Some will be bullying related, others LGBT rights oriented, and still others links to get laws changed to reflect equality in American government. Thank you for your time, effort, and interest in Stop The Hate Stop The Hurt!


Feel free to treat this as an open post to ask questions or have discussions! We are all in this together! Thanks again.

And the Bullying hits home…..

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Yeah…MY kids school… MY kids classmates…MY world….

One Dead…  Another ones life in the gallows… Bullying…. I can’t even talk about it right now.  Doesn’t matter what it was about…doesn’t matter at all… Nothing matters to the kid that’s going to be buried in the next day or two.

Two lives, destroyed in an instant, a flash in the grand scheme of things, but none the less, gone….

Doesn’t matter who bullied who, the deed is done…at what expense?  Two families ripped apart.

Will it make a difference?  Will anything be done?  Will others learn a lesson?  Will it ever stop?

My heart is torn into shreds right now…..  I feel so small, so insignificant, so useless.   I can teach my own not to bully, but who teaches the others?  Apparently no one.  Not even the schools, not effectively anyway.  Big deal,  suspend them off a bus.   Then what?  It’s party time…now they are ‘cool’ and big shots.

I’m sick to my stomach…

OMFG…Do we have a long way to go…

I opened  my yahoo homepage today to see a beautiful article on the announcement of the birth of Elton John and his partner David Furnish’s new baby boy.  I was so happy, so excited.  That is until I started reading the comments below…. If you must see this for yourself…Hold on tight…It will rip your heart out.

Fuck… took my elation and buried like a bone.  The hate, the pure ignorance, the…the…the… just brought tears to my eyes.  JC…  The baby was just born, on Christ’s birthday for God’s sake, and the hate is starting already.  Of course most of it directed directly toward  Elton and his partner, but what’s the difference?  Hate is hate.

I mean, in just the last 24 hrs,  3,644 comments,  way over 50%, if not MORE are pure hate and hypocrisy.  I just couldn’t keep reading after the first 10 pages…  From ‘bible thumpers’ to who knows what, are telling the world how they feel about this.  It ain’t good.    Nope,  ain’t good at all.

I have NO problem whatsoever with people having their religious beliefs, but to spew those beliefs on a public forum, to behave the way they do, preaching his ‘word’ in ugly, nasty words.   Well…hypocrisy at its finest. The very thing I was taught by ‘God’  NOT to do.   Be kind to your neighbor, comes to mind.  To love all others as you do yourself.  Do not judge.  Blah, blah, blah…  Need I go on?  For every so called ‘anti-homosexual’ passage in what I call, human infected words of God, the Bible,  I promise you I can rebut it with two that prove it wrong.

To the ones that don’t actually post  particularly religious comments, well, I don’t give a fuck, they got the hate from somewhere.  I’m just saying………….

Look, I was born and raised a strict Catholic, although I no longer support organized religion, I will tell you this;  my Mother still says her rosary every night before she sleeps and tucks them under her pillow, she believes.  But even she thinks the bible has been misinterpreted to such a degree, by the input of humans, that the original meaning of God’s word has been lost, twisted, defaced by the willful need to take those words and selfishly manipulate them toward a personal agenda.  Why in the hell are there so many versions of the Bible if this wasn’t the case?  Huh?  It’s easy to do.  Just re-write it to suit your tastes, preach it, and low and behold, someone will follow, believe, and so the story goes…….   Yeah….

I didn’t mean for this to go off on a religious tangent, but damn it all to hell.  I just HAD to go back and read more of those comments.  The loudest are saying the ‘Gay Agenda’ is being shoved down their throats.    Well, GET THE FUCK OUT of MY mouth with YOUR agenda!  What ever happened to ‘God loves all of his children?’

As I sit here with tears in my eyes, I just realized I want to thank all the haters out there.  Yeah…I do.  I want to thank them all for opening my eyes even further, for splitting my heart open at what mankind has become.  Why?  Because it just gave me a bit more resolve to step away from the ingrained beliefs that were inflicted, yes inflicted, on me growing up.  I now will not carry the guilt of not having my children Baptized, not carry the guilt of never having set my childrens souls in an organized religions house of worship to be judged by the very people who perpetuate such hypocrisy,  not carry the guilt of maybe somehow disappointing my Mother.  Nope…I will not carry the guilt of poisoning my childrens mind with such hate.

As much as this article hurt me, I come out stronger, more firmly planted in MY beliefs now.   I WILL live by the ten commandments, WILL teach my children the meaning of love and acceptance, give them the ability to overcome the haters by behaving respectfully toward them, but I’ll be damned if I will TELL them religion is ‘right’, damned if I tell them to accept what is now a humanized abomination of God’s ‘word.’  Nope…won’t do it.

And if I go to hell, if there even is such a place,  so be it.   I think I’ll have plenty of company.  I’ll leave it up to my children to decide what’s best for them if and when they should need a different kind of guidance I can’t give them.

Yeah…let the hate begin.   I’m waiting for it…and ya know what?  I don’t give a flying fuck.   Nope.   I just love a good snarkfest.  And I can do it with a smile on my face and my heart.  I live what I believe.   It’s a shame others don’t live by the ‘words’ they preach.

Bring it on…Imma in the mood.

Rise 2theTop

Huffington Post Reports Two More Bullying Related Suicides.

Lance Lundsten and Tiffani Maxwell

More tragedy on the bullying front. Eighteen- year- old Lance Lundsten, an openly gay high school student, and sixteen- year- old Tiffani Maxwell, a high school student who was accused of  using drugs and harassed in school, have committed suicide, allegedly as a direct result of harassment.

Credit: Huffington Post

Congress Votes to Repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell!”

This disgusting, unconstitutional, degrading policy has finally been repealed! Gays will soon be able to serve openly in the military. We are one step closer to having the LGBT population NOT be treated like second- class citizens. Thank you to the Democrats, and to the Republican Senators who so bravely went against their party to end discrimination in the US Armed Forces.

NOH8 PSA – “It Gets Better & “Anti-Bullying” Video

“The media has been flooded in recent weeks with stories about young LGBT teens from all over the country who have taken their lives because of the relentless bullying around them, and those tragic stories are still continuing to break. It’s clear that youth everywhere need our help, and that’s why we gathered a group of our celebrity supporters to create a series of video PSA’s that address the issues of bullying and teen suicides. They knew how important it was to act quickly on this issue, and we hope that you will listen carefully to what they have to say.”

Read More HERE


It’s not easy… but it does get better! Thank you NOH8 Campaign. You are making a difference!