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Anti Gay Antics From Celebrities Draw fines, Criticism: A Sign of Progress?

There have recently been an alarming string of anti- gay antics from celebrities in any field from pro sports to music to prime time television. Now, no one is expecting celebrities to be perfect. They have no responsibility to raise our children for us, nor  to be some sort of role model to the public. However, the undeniable truth is that with fame, comes almost automatic influence. Therefore, while one does not have a responsibility to be perfect, one does have the responsibility to act responsibly in public or face the consequences, and spewing hateful rhetoric at an already targeted segment of the population is most certainly not acting in a responsible manner.

So, since I have failed to high light these incidents individually, let’s have one, long explanation of some most disturbing and shocking recent anti gay antics from the entertainment world.

First, we have Kobe Bryant.

He was fined $100,000 for calling a referee a “fucking faggot.” Bryant has since apologized, but many don’t feel like it was good enough.

Next, we have Atlanta Braves pitching coach Roger Mcdowell, who made crude sexual gestures with a baseball bat at three fans at a game against the San Francisco Giants after allegedly saying to three male fans who were together at the game, “Are you guys a homo couple or a threesome?”

Then, when a father at the game with his wife and nine year old twin daughters attempted to intervene, McDowell replied, “”How much are your teeth worth?” as he walked over with a baseball bat. He has since apologized as well, but, once again, no one knows if it is sincere or merely damage control.

Of course, more recently, we have the likes of Cee Lo Green

tweeting homophobic rants, of which there can be no doubt of the truth, because the tweets are saved in screen shots, despite the fact that green deleted them from his twitter feed and has since semi apologized.

original homophobia on twitter, courtesy of Colleen star examiner.com:

screen shot credit to Colleen Star Examiner.com

And the apology that was hardly an apology:

And, of course, last, but certainly not least, was Tracy Morgan’s homophobic rant at a Nashville comedy show.

Tracy, however, is a bit different from the others. His apology was not just a half “if you were offended” type apology. He has since met with homeless gay and transgender youth, called his own words “indefensible”, and seems genuinely sorry.

I could carry on and on with example after example of this stuff coming out of the camp of celebrities, but I think you get the idea. I am still saddened that they could say and do such outrageously callous, insensitive, and inexcusable things, especially in the current climate, when we, the LGBT community are still very much victims of truly institutionalized homophobia, and our youth are still committing suicide at alarming rates. However, I am ecstatic that they are being called to task, and that the LGBT community and straight allies alike are letting them know that this is unacceptable, and, if you don’t at least act like you are sorry, they will suffer the consequences. So, yes, there is definite progress.


Dhuran Ravi: Throw the Book at Him?

Dhuran Ravi, the young Rutgers student who tormented his closeted gay roommate Tyler Clementi has been arraigned, the New York Times reports.  Queerty, popular gay snark blog, seem to revel in glee at the possibility that Ravi could possibly spend upwards of ten years in prison for his crimes and his part in Clementi’s death. However, some regulars in the Queerty comment section seemed to think the possible punishment is excessive. I happen to disagree with them. Ravi, and others who engage in bias intimidation, especially of the variety that has such grave consequences, need to be made examples of, to show that such behavior will not be tolerated, and that the price to pay will be very high indeed. I say ruin his life, because his actions have a direct correlation to the tragic death of a bright young man who was harming no one. What do you think?

credits: New York Times, Queerty

Yes, I Get Bullied, Too.

I hesitated to post this here, because I never wanted to make this blog about me. But, it is certainly relevant. Last week, I was bullied at school. Students called me a ‘carpet muncher’ in the student center, and then proceeded to have a loud conversation behind me the next day about how being gay is a sin. To top it all off, anti gay religious people set up camp on campus, handing out pamphlets and testimonials in the student center day before yesterday. All of these things make me feel so unwelcome and unappreciated on my own college campus.

Now, the good news is that it is being taken care of. I have my advisor and a member of the school administration in my corner, and they do not condone homophobia. They are also working toward implementing tolerance and diversity policies, and equipping the staff to deal with anti gay bullying. They were simply ignorant of how big an issue this really is.

This is an especially appropriate post as tomorrow is the Day of Silence, an effort to bring attention to LGBT bullying in schools and workplaces around the nation. Please participate and spread the word.

OMFG…Do we have a long way to go…

I opened  my yahoo homepage today to see a beautiful article on the announcement of the birth of Elton John and his partner David Furnish’s new baby boy.  I was so happy, so excited.  That is until I started reading the comments below…. If you must see this for yourself…Hold on tight…It will rip your heart out.

Fuck… took my elation and buried like a bone.  The hate, the pure ignorance, the…the…the… just brought tears to my eyes.  JC…  The baby was just born, on Christ’s birthday for God’s sake, and the hate is starting already.  Of course most of it directed directly toward  Elton and his partner, but what’s the difference?  Hate is hate.

I mean, in just the last 24 hrs,  3,644 comments,  way over 50%, if not MORE are pure hate and hypocrisy.  I just couldn’t keep reading after the first 10 pages…  From ‘bible thumpers’ to who knows what, are telling the world how they feel about this.  It ain’t good.    Nope,  ain’t good at all.

I have NO problem whatsoever with people having their religious beliefs, but to spew those beliefs on a public forum, to behave the way they do, preaching his ‘word’ in ugly, nasty words.   Well…hypocrisy at its finest. The very thing I was taught by ‘God’  NOT to do.   Be kind to your neighbor, comes to mind.  To love all others as you do yourself.  Do not judge.  Blah, blah, blah…  Need I go on?  For every so called ‘anti-homosexual’ passage in what I call, human infected words of God, the Bible,  I promise you I can rebut it with two that prove it wrong.

To the ones that don’t actually post  particularly religious comments, well, I don’t give a fuck, they got the hate from somewhere.  I’m just saying………….

Look, I was born and raised a strict Catholic, although I no longer support organized religion, I will tell you this;  my Mother still says her rosary every night before she sleeps and tucks them under her pillow, she believes.  But even she thinks the bible has been misinterpreted to such a degree, by the input of humans, that the original meaning of God’s word has been lost, twisted, defaced by the willful need to take those words and selfishly manipulate them toward a personal agenda.  Why in the hell are there so many versions of the Bible if this wasn’t the case?  Huh?  It’s easy to do.  Just re-write it to suit your tastes, preach it, and low and behold, someone will follow, believe, and so the story goes…….   Yeah….

I didn’t mean for this to go off on a religious tangent, but damn it all to hell.  I just HAD to go back and read more of those comments.  The loudest are saying the ‘Gay Agenda’ is being shoved down their throats.    Well, GET THE FUCK OUT of MY mouth with YOUR agenda!  What ever happened to ‘God loves all of his children?’

As I sit here with tears in my eyes, I just realized I want to thank all the haters out there.  Yeah…I do.  I want to thank them all for opening my eyes even further, for splitting my heart open at what mankind has become.  Why?  Because it just gave me a bit more resolve to step away from the ingrained beliefs that were inflicted, yes inflicted, on me growing up.  I now will not carry the guilt of not having my children Baptized, not carry the guilt of never having set my childrens souls in an organized religions house of worship to be judged by the very people who perpetuate such hypocrisy,  not carry the guilt of maybe somehow disappointing my Mother.  Nope…I will not carry the guilt of poisoning my childrens mind with such hate.

As much as this article hurt me, I come out stronger, more firmly planted in MY beliefs now.   I WILL live by the ten commandments, WILL teach my children the meaning of love and acceptance, give them the ability to overcome the haters by behaving respectfully toward them, but I’ll be damned if I will TELL them religion is ‘right’, damned if I tell them to accept what is now a humanized abomination of God’s ‘word.’  Nope…won’t do it.

And if I go to hell, if there even is such a place,  so be it.   I think I’ll have plenty of company.  I’ll leave it up to my children to decide what’s best for them if and when they should need a different kind of guidance I can’t give them.

Yeah…let the hate begin.   I’m waiting for it…and ya know what?  I don’t give a flying fuck.   Nope.   I just love a good snarkfest.  And I can do it with a smile on my face and my heart.  I live what I believe.   It’s a shame others don’t live by the ‘words’ they preach.

Bring it on…Imma in the mood.

Rise 2theTop

Huffington Post Reports Two More Bullying Related Suicides.

Lance Lundsten and Tiffani Maxwell

More tragedy on the bullying front. Eighteen- year- old Lance Lundsten, an openly gay high school student, and sixteen- year- old Tiffani Maxwell, a high school student who was accused of  using drugs and harassed in school, have committed suicide, allegedly as a direct result of harassment.

Credit: Huffington Post